We all have hidden beliefs. They’re ones we take as truth because they seem to be part of who we are. We don’t question them because we’ve always believed them or we’ve believed them for so long that we don’t doubt their truth. And we don’t see them because we don’t look for them. It’s like being in a cage and looking through the bars rather than at the bars. You don’t see the bars; you see through the spaces between them, so you don’t know you’re trapped, caged by your hidden beliefs.
You can find your hidden beliefs by asking yourself what you think about all kinds of things – women, men, marriage, science, religion, different races and so on. Whenever you ask yourself what you believe about something, you might uncover a hidden belief. But if they’re a core belief, they won’t be revealed by your first answer, not if you’ve held them since childhood. You may have more recent beliefs pasted on top, but core beliefs will always compromise the more recent belief because they’re stronger. A new belief, if it conflicts with a core belief, just won’t really stick. So you might think that you believe that all races are equal, for example, but deep down a belief in inequality might remain from childhood or from time in a cult. Until you uncover that hidden core belief and expose it to examination so it can fade away in the light of your adult or cult-free self, you’re holding conflicting beliefs and that will always bring some mental discomfort.
I discovered recently why I had been struggling with the idea that I ‘should’ have some ‘spiritual’ practice or path. When I eventually recognised the cause of my angst, saw the hidden belief and realised its limitations, it vanished like smoke blown by the wind and so did my angst.
And when I examined it closely, I realised just how Tibetan Buddhism used this seemingly positive belief as a hook to keep me stuck in a cult and keep the money rolling into Rigpa’s coffers. It did have a positive effect on me for a while. The trouble is that I never discarded it when it became no longer relevant or useful to me.
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Did you or do you also hold this belief? If so, is it still relevant to and beneficial for you? What effect does holding it have on your life?