Concerned about a certain letter you read recently?
Here is where you can share your concerns, your personal experience, your beliefs, and your support for those who have so bravely come forward and shared their testimonies. Even if you disagree with their perception, please honour how painful their experiences have been and how difficult it is for them to break the silence. Honour their truth.
On hearing this for the first time, I experienced shock, anger, betrayal, bitter disappointment and finally sadness, so please support your dharma brothers and sisters as you pass through whatever this situation raises for you. You may read words written from intense emotional states, and that’s fine. Honour them, but don’t get caught up in them. Let them come, and let them go.
Working out what this means for us individually is a process, and this blog is a place where we can help each other through that process to whatever outcome is best for where we are as individuals at this time.
And remember: Up above the clouds, the sky is always blue.
Love and Respect
I don’t want to have to moderate this blog so please look after each other with love and respect. I expect we’re all hurting in one way or another over these revelations. Allow all opinions, and try not to react to each other or defend or denounce or deny. Instead support each other by listening without judgement. If someone oversteps the mark, feel free to point it out.
Lean into what is uncomfortable and use it to grow.
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More personal and private support can be found in the What Now? Facebook group. Please contact us via the contact page and ask for an invite. Include a link to your Facebook profile or the email address you use with Facebook.
The What Now? Facebook Group has secret-level privacy, meaning that it can’t be found and if someone does manage to find it, no one can see members names or discussions. It is a moderated group created to ensure that people are not alone in their hurt and concern, that they have a place to process their concerns in a supportive atmosphere, and that if they choose to speak out, members will listen to them and not judge their experience, their perception or understanding of the teachings.
For some it may be helpful for your practice at this point to expand your idea of lama by looking at teachings from others in the tradition. For example Mingyur Rinpoche has lots of videos on You Tube. I also recommend reading His Holiness’s guidelines for dealing with this situation.
Check out our Resources page for more help in processing this, and also see the Sangha Care Resources Website
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So how are you feeling about all this?
We would love to hear in the comments. Please use initials instead of names when you refer to teachers and organizations.